Things are Changing

Change is inevitable. Sometimes it forces us to stretch ourselves. Sometimes it is uncomfortable. Sometimes we have planned for it; other times it catches us completely by surprise. Sometimes it is for our growth.

As this post goes live, I am in the process of moving — and that’s one change that I am very excited about. Everyone calm down….I’m just moving across town. There is no major relocation plans in the works. I’m not anxious to go through the process of getting the boxes out of my dilapidated 2-bedroom apartment into the third floor, 1-bedroom unit that will be my new home. (Thanks for the movers, Mom and Pop!) I am looking forward to being in a place that is beautiful and where I will want to spend time. Even though the process of moving is going to be rather painful and getting settled in the new place (and dealing with all of those stairs!) will take time, I know that this change will ultimately be a very positive one.

Other things have been changing in my world this summer. The Geriatrics finally settled into a new church home that is ultimately going to be a great place for them to worship with a strong community of believers. Pop is in the process of undergoing a battery of tests that are going to result in some significant changes for him in the coming weeks.  We are just praying that they will be as non-invasive as possible and still produce significant results. With the help of my brother, some strong backs, and a U-Haul trailer, my beloved Boston piano made its way back to Arkansas. 

This summer, I also made the decision to make a change in my blogging routine. I stopped. Writing had become a duty instead of an enjoyment and I found myself struggling to find inspiration. Instead, I tried to immerse myself in novels…..and that failed miserably as well. That’s when I decided that this summer would be one to binge in front of the tube — I caught up on movies and television series I have been intending to watch for quite a while. It wasn’t the most intellectual way to spend a summer, but I am much happier because of it. As summer began to near its end, I decided that I would return to my blogs once I returned to Plainview.

That’s when Facebook decided to make changes of their own as well. The website no longer allows me to automatically publish links to my blogs on my personal page. The only way to share the link on my page at the moment (at least, that I am aware of) is to manually publish each one as it goes live. Now we all know that is not going to happen! I’m going to do things as easily as possible and the thought of linking each post is simply another thing that I don’t want to do.

So there are changes coming to Livin’ Life. Until I find another option, this will be the last post to appear on my Facebook page. Some of you may be happy to see that your feed won’t be obstructed by their appearance. For those who want to continue following the blog, you can subscribe once you are on the homepage. The other change will be that the weekly “Hits and Misses” will not return for now. I’m not sure how long this hiatus will last. I simply found that I was spending more time providing brief accounts of my week rather than sharing stories and thoughts about how I’m experiencing the world around me. Those posts have felt like diary entries for a while instead of a chance to think through some things and let others come along for the ride. 

Just like my own life, change is a given. That’s what keeps me on my toes and enjoying the adventure as I continue Livin’ Life in West Texas. I gladly invite you to come along and watch the laughter and tears unfold.

What Do You Do?

Since starting my job this fall, I’ve repeatedly heard two questions.

• How do you like living in Texas?
• What exactly do you do?

I feel pretty confident that I have answered the first question. So let me give you — especially my extended family and friends who know very little about musical training — some insight into my work.

 

My official title is Assistant Professor of Piano at Wayland Baptist University. As you might guess, I spend the majority of my day sitting on a piano bench, but I switch hats throughout the day.

 

My primary teaching responsibility is the class piano sequence. Every student who studies music — regardless of their principle instrument — needs to develop basic keyboard skills. That’s where my class comes in. Every non-pianist in the music program takes a 4-semester sequence that meets twice each week to build their piano skills. Much of our time is spent learning scales and chord progressions as we explore late elementary and early intermediate piano repertoire. After students complete the 4th semester of class piano, they take a benchmark exam to demonstrate their level of proficiency. The exam addresses solo performance as well as skills such as sight reading, transposition, and score reading. For many of our students, the proficiency exam is a major hurdle before they begin the upper division coursework in the field.

 

In addition to class piano, I currently teach applied piano lessons to one freshman woman. She is a early intermediate student who is not afraid of a challenge. We’ve had a lot of fun this semester, made some significant progress, and have already begun to plan our repertoire choices for the spring. I’m hoping to have the opportunity to do more private teaching as the piano program at WBU grows.

 

The rest of my week is filled with a lot of playing in rehearsals and lessons of all types. I currently work with eleven vocalists as well as the students enrolled in class voice. As the semester begins to wind down, instrumentalists are beginning to seek me out for accompaniments for their jury exams. At this point, I have received music from five of them. Monday and Wednesday afternoons find me spending 90 minutes with the men and women of Wayland Singers — the department’s non-auditioned choir. This week brings the end of the university’s opera offering; we’re mounting a production of The Mikado. Those who have known me the longest will be surprised to hear that my time in opera workshop is some of my favorite times of the week.

 

Then there’s all the work that comes outside of the classroom and rehearsal studio. Thankfully, I was not assigned to any standing committees during my first semester of work. That has allowed me some time to do some recruiting (phone calls and emails take more time than you would ever expect). I’m working on a new course that will be offered in the spring. I could go on and on about student recitals, NATS competitions, LMTA meetings, master classes, and student rehearsals….but I think you get the picture. I’ve found myself very busy and very fulfilled.

 

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Clean Up Your Mess!

I live the life of a bachelor. That means that everything is not always put away. It’s not filthy by any means……it’s just messy. Thankfully it’s my mess and no one else has to deal with it……so I can put things away on my own schedule. Even though I am a messy person, I despise when someone comes into my space, knowingly makes a mess, and leaves the space in total disarray. This was my frustration earlier this week.

There have been some maintenance issues in my apartment that I have reported by phone to the landlord throughout the month. Nothing was getting done…..so I wrapped this month’s rent check in a photocopied list of the issues. I was pleasantly surprised to discover that the most crucial repair was taken care of the next day. I was not so pleased to see the filth that the plumber had left behind him. There was mud in the floor. The waste basket was overturned in the shower. There was water all over the counter. I was not a happy camper…..and I decided to take pictures.

Once I forwarded the photographs to my landlord, I began to clean up. That was when I noticed that the light in my kitchen was no longer working. When I grabbed my phone to report another issue, I had a text message apologizing for the plumber’s mess that also informed me that the light fixture was being replaced. Okay…..I’m all for an improvement….and decided things might not be so bad after all.

I returned home the next afternoon after a very long day to discover sheet rock, screws, and more mud in my floor where the new fixture had been installed. Now I’m beginning to wonder if these people are blind or just completely inconsiderate! I’m leaning towards the latter explanation. I suppose I should be thankful that I noticed the screws before vacuuming the carpets. That would have TOTALLY destroyed the machine.

That explains why I need a vacation! So I’ll be heading west over this holiday weekend for a little exploration, relaxation, and rejuvenation. Livin’ Life will return next Wednesday with the next installment of “Hits and Misses.”

Dealing with the Silence

Life in west Texas is exciting and new. For the first time, I am enjoying the opportunity to live without consideration for the schedules of family members. I’m alone…..so that means the only schedule that I have to abide by is my own.

Once the newness of my situation sank in, I also had to come to grips with some of the implications of being alone. There are lots of quiet times to spend with my own thoughts. If I’m not careful, these “quiet” times can become very lonely. I quickly realized that I had to learn the difference between “being alone” and “being lonely.” It’s nice to be alone with my own thoughts occasionally. I enjoy the relaxed pace of life as a bachelor. When the tide turns and I begin to experience loneliness, I have found a few tricks to help me navigate the dark times and turn my attitude around.

• Establish a Routine. Even though a solitary lifestyle does not demand conforming to the schedules of other people, establishing a regular routine for your activities can provide a sense of security in times of uncertainty. The routine also causes the mind to focus on important events that are coming on the horizon. If I have a chore to complete sometime in the future, I am less likely to object to the calm times that can sometimes lead to loneliness.
• Remind Yourself of Activities You Enjoy Doing Alone. If you are anything like me, there are multiple activities that I personally enjoy that had to take a backseat to other people’s schedules. Now that I’m living alone, I have time to devote to these — and can even make them a priority. I’m finding time to sit and listen to an album, read a short story, and complete jigsaw puzzles and craft projects that had been tossed aside for many years. However, it is also important that you understand that the activity’s pleasure does not replace your need for human interaction.
• Seek Social Situations. As we encounter people throughout our day, it is important that the single person recognize and embrace opportunities to enjoy the company of others in social situations. It can be easy to turn down an invitation to a movie night or a dinner outing when we feel as though we are going to be a “third wheel.” Look for other singles who might be looking for a friend. They are everywhere around you — at work, next door, and in the church. Remember that you are not necessarily looking for a romantic relationship and trust that others understand this concept as well. Don’t let society’s ideas about your life — and the perceived relationships you should have in your life — impact your pursuit of honest friendships.
• Regularly Access Your Emotional Condition. You know when loneliness is plaguing you better than anyone else. When your emotions are hitting the skids, take the initiative and make the necessary steps to pull yourself out of the dumps. If you have struggled with depression in the past, it is imperative that you have a trusted friend to whom you will be accountable.
• Take Advantage of Technology. With email, cell phones, and social media, it is very easy to stay in touch with those most important to us — regardless of the distance that separates us. When words just won’t suffice, go for face-to-face interactions through apps such as Skype and FaceTime. A video chat will help to alleviate the loneliness and tide you over until you are able to make a trip to see your loved ones in person.

I’ve learned a lot in the past month about dealing with the silence and overcoming the problems of loneliness. At times, I now find that I greatly value being alone with my thoughts and resent interruptions from the outside world — even when those interrupting have the best of intentions. Even in those times of solitude, I know that it is important that I stay connected with others as I continue to learn how best to deal with the silence of life.

 

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Exploring New Places is Fun!

I tend to be a person of routine. I stick to the familiar. Change is difficult for me.

My move to Texas has brought lots of changes to my life and I have had to get out of my comfort zone and explore new options and possibilities. Not all of my adventures so far have been fun. (You can’t imagine the frustration of realizing that you cannot get a Texas driver’s license without having a Texas insurance policy…..which requires a Texas driver’s license to complete the application.) Some have been pleasant surprises. I never imagined that Plainview would become so comfortable so quickly.

Most of my explorations so far have been in the area of services — grocery stores, churches, mechanics, restaurants, movie theaters, and libraries. As I continue to settle in and get classes up and running, I intend to explore the area a little more for the FUN stuff. Who knows what I may find….but I promise to keep you updated as I continue Livin’ Life.