A new year has begun. Every year, this time of the year comes with fresh hope, new dreams, and a few worries. The past two years have not been kind to any of us. It has been tough trying to just survive at times. Achieving goals has felt like too great of an ask. That’s why this year I am foregoing the standard New Year’s Resolutions. I’m just not in a place right now where I can handle the defeat of not achieving lofty goals. It’s time for me to admit to myself and to others that it is perfectly fine to not be fine at the moment. Instead, I am choosing to express some of my personal hopes for the year ahead.
I hope to reclaim much of what has been lost. The pandemic (and all of the fallout and loss that we have experienced as a result of it) has cost me dearly. In the coming year, I hope to regain my passion again — for relationships, for music, and for myself. I hope to regain my positivity. (That has been a lost commodity in my world recently.) I hope to rediscover real joy and contentment.
I also hope to learn more this year. I’m setting out on a personal educational adventure this year. Do I really know what the outcome will be? Not at all. I will be doing some work in a traditional classroom setting again as a student. I’ll also be pursuing some personal study of topics that are of interest to me.
In 2022, I hope to practice greater self-care. I don’t really know exactly what this will look like, but I want to make sure I make time for things that bring me happiness and give myself permission to simply tune out everything else in order to center my heart and mind. It might be as simple as losing myself in the pages of a novel again, working on a favorite hobby without guilt, or catching a movie with a friend. There may be more concerts and weekend excursions without a real purpose in sight. It also might mean turning off all of the electronic noise and enjoying the silence for a while.
I hope to regain my adventurousness. When COVID first entered our nation, I sat at home in fear for myself, my family, my job, and my world. That’s something I have never really dealt with before. While I became a little more relaxed about the virus after vaccination, I have continued to find myself facing dread and lots of uncertainty. I became afraid to take a chance because what had once brought excitement and adventure now just led to discomfort and unease. I became an old man emotionally rather than the youthful spirit that I had so long enjoyed. (Granted, my body has a way of reminding me regularly that I’m not as young as I once was…..but that’s a different story altogether!) So it’s time to reclaim my love for life. I’m not going to jump from a perfectly good airplane or repel down a cliff, but there are still adventures that await me. I’ve put them on hold far too long because of fear of failure, fear of getting hurt, and fear of possible defeat.
As you can see, much of what I’m hoping for in the new year is all about RECLAIMING a part of me that has been dormant for too long. You may not actually notice much of a change on the outside — I’ve been pretty good about disguising what was really happening behind the mask I wore — but it’s time for me to rip the proverbial mask off and face the ugliness that I see in the mirror. It’s time to make a change…and I can truly say that I’m ready to dare to hope once again.